Online Dating SUCKS!
71Online dating. The hilarity continues. I thought I would update everybody on how my online dating "experience" is coming along so far……. So I joined match.com, but I also decided to join eharmony.com. As long as I'm giving up my dignity and doing online dating, I might as well go all out. P dot S, eharmony, slightly bogus in that they don't let you "search" for girls. They(the eharmony gods) send you matches based on compatibility test. So once every 3 weeks, I get a match. Apparently nerdy, awkward, Mexican engineers isn't everyone's type?
Anyways the moral of the story is two different web sites, but they both seems to have common reoccurring "themes" of profiles. Allow me to present, dissect and be a jerk while I explain the different themes.
This first one I call:
The Mystery Box
This classification of profiles is reserved for the girls that have the "Match has selected later stage for photo sharing" option. So in eharmony.com there's 4 different stages of "communication", first is the about me sections, then there's multiple choice questions, then actual questions, finally, a messaging stage. So this person has decided that for SOME reason they don't want to share their picture until later a stage.
So here's my analysis of the situation:
It then becomes the game of "What's in the mystery box".
If I could reference:
So you can either take a boat or the mystery box. Now a boat's a boat, but the mystery box could be anything. It could even be boat.
Like a fool of course you take the box, even though in best case scenario the best you're getting is a boat.
So instead of immediately stopping communication, you gamble, keep talking to her, keep answering questions, keep enduring the terrible and degrading process that is online dating. Why do you do it? Because. Because curiosity killed the cat. You know at some point she has to "show" her photo. And when that time comes your hopes are so high because you've now put in 6 hours of work and 4 fucking stages of communication, that of course you're let down when she isn't topless and looks like a super model. In fact chances are she's wearing a turtle neck and STILL looks like big foot.
Picture with a .6 mega pixel camera
Seriously!? It's the year 2007, we fucking have lasers that walk your dog and robots that tie shoes laces, and you still can't find a digital picture of you from after 1993? I'm tempted to date this girl ONLY to take a photo of her.
"Me and the Girls.LOL"
This is one of my favorites. The classic "Me and the girls" group shot. How the hell am I supposed to know which one of these hoe bags you are from that caption!?
When this is your only photo up. Please go play in traffic. And I'm pretty sure you can always assume the girl in question is always the ugliest one in the photo. And surprise! I fear the "oh that's me in background" explanation later, which confirms my fears. See diagram below.
I'm going to stop. There's more themes I could talk about, but this blog is getting too long and my ADD is kicking in.
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LMAO! Having now tried the online dating thing for about a year and a half I can definitely relate to your pain. If you want a great laugh, I have actually recounted some of my nightmarish dating experiences within my profile on one of the sites I joined. It's been pretty popular with other members of the site so far. Check out www.plentyoffish.com and do a user search for builder30
I've come to the conclusion that I had better luck with blind dates and meeting wasted women in bars.
OMG this is brilliant. This pretty much sums up my entire experience with online dating. I ALWAYS get woman without pictures trying to send me messages and my first thought is:
1) How ugly is this girl going to be?
2) Is she going to be over 200 pounds like the last one?
So naturally I keep talking to her to build rapport. The girl seems awsome and interested in meeting (which is always a red flag) then she finally sends you a picture with the classic "this was an old photo.." line. You reluctantly open it, cross your fingers, and then when it finally loads the realization hits you that you knew all along. This is yet another free willy in human form. Online dating is the quickest way to insanity if you're a man.
It's not just hard for you guys! It sucks for the girls, too.
I want to feature this on my blog, SanDiegoSteve. Can I?
well you guys shouldn't be waisting your time with online its all about communicating with women outside the cave. Body language is very important. Women emails are to slow. Go to a bar have fun. try to meet women during the the day and build trust with them and then later on ask them out.
If I'm having a hard time finding a female, how's a computer supposed to do it? It seem like whatever variables I put in, I get more frusterated and lost. Yes, hours and hours of time, with the end result being either a reject, or a mismatch. They would be better putting a list of single people on a page and having each person post a picture and a description.
Why is this so true? Have you checked out CL lately? As I had a bit of luck meeting nice gals online in FL, I thought, sure, post an ad up here in Colorado. HA! What a waste of time. I'm not John Tucker, but I ain't ugly either, and the only time I got hundreds of responses is when I put up pics of a different guy I found online who was obviously loaded and looked like he walked off of CW. Needless to say, this lead me further into my quest to understand women...and I've got a headache.
My conclusion has been that people who are already together or have no problems generally dating don't use sites like CL or any of these dating sites. (Oh, I'm not biased, tried TRUE, SINGLESNET as well as CL.) So either there are no women in Colorado, or these sites simply don't do their job, and collect and repeatedly happily charge your cc. Oh yeah, and when you call in to quit, the girl on the other end pretends to like you and even gives you her profile. Surprise, she's a hot blonde who loves you for who you are and persuades you to keep trying a bit longer. I guess these people know what they are doing, right?
The sad truth is finding people that respond is a low chance, finding out they are not inviting you to their site with a "free membership" but really really want to meet you in person...even lower chance. And when you finally do find someone real on there, sorry ladies, but fat or neurotic come to mind. Do I mind bigger girls? I don't hate them, but I'm not attracted to them. Oh, gotta love the, just fell out of the gym recently story. Honey, you don't look like that from recently stopping the gym. And if you don't like it, then just be honest. I almost want to send a virtual hug to the ladies that just come out and say what they look like, instead of sending stupid shoulder shots, and pictures that clearly show slap bracelets and atari in their absolutely stunning pictures. The next step would be to follow through. Can't tell you how many times a girl and I will start to talk, and she just disappears. Don't think it's me...we were fine and then...poof (Yes, I said poof)
Good luck my friends!
Dude this is so true! I had to come back and read this again because it's so damn funny. I've seen all of the scenarios and all I can say is those are my thoughts exactly. The list is almost endless but i have two more:
-The girl who has one close up photo wearing a hat and sunglasses. I mean for real WTF? how am supposed see what you look like if half your head is covered?
-The girl who has one photo of herself taken at about a mile away and you can't tell anything about her. Why even bother?
Great post man true and funny as hell!
Online dating is a waste of time. I can relate to all of the above. Women on these sites only seek attention. The only advantage is you can select an age category and qualities. Provided people don't lie on their profiles. I got tired of sending messages only to have them read and deleted. Only to realize the person I've contacted is nastier than sin after viewing newly added pictures. In which case I never would have sent out my message to begin with. My thoughts become: '...and I was rejected by this?' its like , please, I put you to shame. Don't waste your time guys with online dating sites. You will only get cougars contacting you. The rare really hot girls get millions of e-mails from guys. She then labels all guys as jerks because of a few bad e-mails. Do it in person the way nature intended...period!
Online dating doesn't completely suck, just in America.
America is THE WORST place to meet women. There is an exponential correlation between how good they look and how hard it is to meet them. Suffice it to say, American women (I mean those that don't look like trolls) are full of themselves. THIS IS A FACT!
would you like to join me in creating a hot site, where people can post their bad online dating experiences? I'm looking for a few "partners" people with experience . I use brackets around partners cause, I do not mean literally, I mean, we share the revenue if we get any, maybe by driving traffic and google adwords ?
My short experience in this field led me to believe it's worse then real life dating. Most of the women come on with unrealistic expectations. They still respond and date the guys that they swear they don't want to date anymore. Ya know the guys with their hair spiked 6 inches above their bronze tanned foreheads and post pictures of themselves in the mirror with their shirt off.
These women are tricked by lame eharmony commercials that online dating works because you can screen your matches. There's no hope for these women who couldn't successfully screen men face to face when body language and eye contact are involved. What makes them think they can screen a guy just through poorly written emails.
I'm thinking about continuing online dating but more as a trick. I'll set up an account with a fake picture of some guy that dresses in suits and drives fast cars. and I'll set another up with a picture of an extremely hot chick whining how there's no good men, meanwhile there's countless cleavage shots.
I can't wait to see what responses both adds would get. :)
"You will only get cougars contacting you"
But I like Cougars. :)
My short experience in this field led me to believe it's worse then real life dating. Most of the women come on with unrealistic expectations. They still respond and date the guys that they swear they don't want to date anymore. Ya know the guys with their hair spiked 6 inches above their bronze tanned foreheads and post pictures of themselves in the mirror with their shirt off.
These women are tricked by lame eharmony commercials that online dating works because you can screen your matches. There's no hope for these women who couldn't successfully screen men face to face when body language and eye contact are involved. What makes them think they can screen a guy just through poorly written emails.
I'm thinking about continuing online dating but more as a trick. I'll set up an account with a fake picture of some guy that dresses in suits and drives fast cars. and I'll set another up with a picture of an extremely hot chick whining how there's no good men, meanwhile there's countless cleavage shots.
I can't wait to see what responses both adds would get. :)
"You will only get cougars contacting you"
But I like Cougars. :)
I could not agree more ... online dating sucks - awful experiences, terrible people, worthless pursuits
Since good looking intelligent girls have no problem getting guys, they don't need online dating. Therefore almost all the girls on online dating sites are fat, ugly as hell, stupid or a combination of the three. The oddball girl who pops up who does look decent gets 100 e-mails a day and you have no chance.
Great blog on on-line dating.. I had very unrealistic expectations from on-line dating.. I've been on over 75 on-line dates and have yet to be WOWED! And not one woman looked like their profile picture.. Why do woman post pictures from 10 years ago? Do they think I will not notice?
Here's a few tips for everyone.. If your looking for a real relationship stay clear of woman who post pics with a cell phone, pics on a bed or in a bathroom. Pics of more than one person and doesn't specify which one is them. Pics with their kids. Pics with beer bottles, cigarettes.. The pics says it ALL!! I learned the hard way, no pun..
I went on Eharmony about a year ago. It was quite an experience. I had quite a few matches. Mostly they were overweight unattractive women that I would have never looked at or had any interest in offline.
I had several one time dates. They looked nothing like their pictures and their personalities were nothing like they described in their profiles.
I did go out with one match several times. I really liked her and we were having a pretty good time. I live in the Bay Area and she lived in Napa. It was a bit of a challenge with the distance but she was often in my area for business for the insurance industry so we were able to hook up fairly easily. At first everything seemed normal. But after a few weeks it became obvious that something was wrong. She seemed secretive and at times strange. It turned out she had a boyfriend and was being treated for bipolar disorder. Nice! Needless to say I moved on
All-in-all my eharmony experience was disappointing and I do not recommend online dating. Unless you are unattractive, overweight, lacking social skills or are just a weirdo in general then online dating is not for you.
Hey i Know how each and everyone feels here Please read and please dont judge my spelling. I started to look to Online dating after I broke up with my last girlfriend. I found out how much it sucks and how much of a scam it is so here is the truth behind online dating. Criagslist is not a good way to meet anyone if you are a man cause 99% of the posting in the w4m section is marketing for these online dating services. Example do you know match.com will make 350,000,000 this year the do this by charging $50 a month to meet people online which half of the profiles for women at least the ones with pics are fake. Its a matter of common scense what attractive women would pay that amount to meet a man when she can do it for free going out at night. Also you have no idea of how much spam comes from those websites from you clicking on those banner adds even on free websites like plentyofish.com trust me it takes a lot of time not much money though to run a online dating service. So anyone who starts one want to be compensated in some way. Second Example even though plentyofish.com is free the owner still made over 10 million dolllars from visitors on his site clicking on ads. Now please understand that i am not taking away from this great service he provide's people but the fact is once you click on those ads he has no say in what the third-party does with you info assuming you filled something out this can lead to alot of spam mail trust me nothing free you might get something for free now but there is always a catch later. I did a lot of reasearch on this. So i got up one day and realize that the is a solution so I started planetnsa.com it one of a series of dating sites i plan to start that is going to be soley about you the online dater. I created this website to target no strings attached dating and my i will find every single man and woman who just wants to meet someone but not wanting to commit. I figure if i go out there and market it on the street and not use web ads to promote my site I can get a lot of REAL" people to sign up who are looking for no strings attached dating. Making this site like facebook think about it facebook is a place were you can possible reunite with long lost friends and it works. So why cant online dating be the same? Come on i know you guys no what i mean i have no other way to say it. There got to be a way to make onle dating not suck so bad
I went on Eharmony about a year ago. It was quite an experience. I had quite a few matches. Mostly they were overweight unattractive women that I would have never looked at or had any interest in offline.
I had several one time dates. They looked nothing like their pictures and their personalities were nothing like they described in their profiles.
I did go out with one match several times. I really liked her and we were having a pretty good time. I live in the Bay Area and she lived in Napa. It was a bit of a challenge with the distance but she was often in my area for business for the insurance industry so we were able to hook up fairly easily. At first everything seemed normal. But after a few weeks it became obvious that something was wrong. She seemed secretive and at times strange. It turned out she had a boyfriend and was being treated for bipolar disorder. Nice! Needless to say I moved on
All-in-all my eharmony experience was disappointing and I do not recommend online dating. Unless you are unattractive, overweight, lacking social skills or are just a weirdo in general then online dating is not for you.
*cracking up*...thought I was the only "normal" person online dating with disaster stories. eharmony sucks, match sucks and Plenty of Freaks (I mean Fish) sucks!!! I'm going back to the old fashioned way of meeting men...I'm going to HOME DEPOT!
Oh Wait, gotta go..someone just "winked" at me...LOL...
Online dating sucks. Even though I met my current, awesome girlfriend online, what are we supposed to tell people when they ask how we met? I do hate being laughed at...
Posting a picture really screws up the point of online dating. Online dating is to get to know people without the assumptions that come with people judging you for your looks. That's why people dont post their pictures, and the more you criticize women for being ugly, less and less of them will post their pictures.
I've gotten messages from guys questioning me for not posting a picture. One of them seemed nice enough and interesting, so I sent him my picture, and he finally "approved me". But by the time he approved me I didn't give a shit, bc it was like a freaking interrogation.
The point is, pretty women don't owe you jack, and neither do ugly ones. So you can man up and try to do your best to sort the good from the bad based on personality and other factors. If you just want looks, you should pony up and go to your nearest bar, unless the problem is that you have absolutely no game and can't pick up women to save your life (or you're ugly too), but feel safe judging them within the confines of your computer.
Idiot.
On line dating always amounts to a major disappointment when you meet your target date in person because the premise is diametrically opposed to the manner in which normal people meet and get to know each other. Think about it for a second....you share all this personal information, first by way of emailing and the much anticipated phone call, and when you finally meet them person you have to determine after a couple of weeks of wasting time if there's chemistry or a connection????? It's a recipe for disaster since it's ass-backwards from the way things proceed in a normal dating scenario, right? Chemistry always comes first. Getting your hopes up and relying on a fantasy to become reality just doesn't cut it.
By the way, a lot of women on Match are ugly, and I'm sorry if I sound shallow. Messed up and bad skin or physical traits that are inherently unappealing to men (short leg length to bay ratio, no hips, etc.) I'm never going to do it again!
yep... it sucks.
Statistics show on-line dating can work and it has a higher success rate than meeting people at parties, bars, etc. It is rapidly becoming the world’s most popular method of singles connecting with other singles. If you’re considering on-line dating or you already have a profile up on your favorite site, try not to make these common mistakes and you will improve your results. Here are the top 10 most annoying things about on-line dating profiles according to a 2009 survey of the top 3 major dating sites:
1. People not posting accurate or recent pics of themselves. (If you were Miss Budweiser 1984, great but let’s see what you look like now please.)
2. People with their ex wives/husbands in their pics with them. (This is a no-brainer. Don’t post pics of you with all of your opposite-sex friends either. Not a good idea to start off a new relationship by creating jealousy.)
3. People who post pics of their tattoos. (Any drunk person with $100 in their pocket can get a tattoo. Some people are proud of their university degrees, you’re proud of your tattoos. That’s class.)
4. People who stick their tongue out in their pics. (Unless you’re 3 years old or you have Down’s syndrome, please keep it in your mouth.)
5. People who throw down gang signs in their pics. (If you’re not in a gang and you’re not from the ghetto, you just look like a super lame poser. Twisted & contorted fingers, sideways peace signs, it all just makes you look like you have arthritis.)
6. People who post pics of themselves taken in the bathroom mirror with their phone. (Your pics are the most important part of your profile. A phone pic taken in the bathroom mirror tells people you spent about 30 seconds on this. Try to show that you care (or pretend to care) and post pics taken with a real camera by someone other than yourself.)
7. People who post pics that are too small to view or taken too far away. (A postage stamp size pic taken 100 yards away doesn’t really show people what you look like.)
8. People who post pics of their kids and/or pets. (If you’re a parent or pet owner, that’s great. However, the unwritten rule here is to post pics of you with your kids & pets, not just close ups of kids & pets alone.)
9. People who lie about their height, weight, age, job & single status. (This is just tacky and a waste of everyone’s time.)
10. People who go on a rant rather than write a description of themselves. (If you have extreme political views or you hate the world or you just like to talk about how much you hate your job, save all that for later. Your profile is there for you to describe yourself and make yourself sound appealing to others. Rants & raves about other subjects will only chase away all the normal people and attract the kooks and psychos.)
Laughed my a** off - seriously funny stuff...My personal experience with eharmony has been entertaining also...They've finally got rid of the 'reason for closing' crap that was a real bummer...my favorite reason to receive - "I'd rather not say..." What the? and you couldn't write a rebuttal - like "I think the physical distance between us is too great" - no sh*t - the physical distance of trying to put my arms around your ******* is TOO GREAT...it's all about the cash$$ also...on a free weekend offer I created a 'clone' of myself - exactly the same as my 'paid' subscription...funny the paid Duder gets twice as many matches and even the roughly 25% that matches for both dudes are about a week apart in receiving them. I've met some fascinating women at least ... seems they lie about their age and photos alot and the men seem to lie about being single or their height...oh, well.
Well I've done just about all of them and I can tell you the dating sites for the most part are a waste of time. Most people my age (50 something) post old outdated pictures, lie about their age, their weight and just about everything else. What's even worse you meet them for coffee or a drink and all they do is bad mouth their ex, UGH!!!! The men are so dull,guess that's why they are single, lol. I have dating dozens once, UGH and Yuck!!! is all I can say. I have also met a few I know were either married or hooked up and just wanting to poke some fun :(. Well good luck to you all you will need it, my belief is these dating sites don't work.
OK I totally agree, but how about this from a woman's point of view......why do all guys have pics with some sort of life-threatening activity or sport...bungee-jumping, scuba diving, motorcycle riding (yeah I love that- sometimes it's JUST a pic of a motorcycle), rock climbing...I have NO interest in any of it and it doesn't impress me that you climbed a big rock once in your life. I also can't believe the number of guys who post pics with their ex-girlfriend in the pic- at least crop the bitch out. And, when I say I want to meet a guy between 36 and 43, I mean it- 65 y/o obese bald males on viagra need not apply. The topper is when a long explicit paragraph about sexual expectations and preferences is the opener...Hi, I am Mike and I am a very sensual guy who likes to have sex twice an hour- you must be interested in pleasuring me on demand...right. Sign me up. And, the guys who scowl into the camera to look like serial killers in their dark, forboding pics are looking for....what exactly? No thanks, I'll skip the beating and kidnapping. I went on a date and after the guy got up twice in an hour to go to the bathroom, he looked at me and said..."I drink a lot of liquids." OK, TMI- don't care about your bladder habits. Seriously, I just want to go to dinner or a game or whatever with someone normal. No more online dating for me. SO you guys are not alone- we women get just as many overweight, not-what-you-say-you-are, headcases as you do. Anybody wanna go on out? Do ya, do ya?
OMG why isn't this posted prior to signing up for on line sites. I dumped all my accounts and am not going back. I meet a guy we went out and then instead of telling me he was not into me he just stopped communicating with me altogether. Here it is 2010 and grown ass men still don't know how to tell women that the are just not that into you. You boys really need to catch up with times and tell a woman. I have to agree with what some of the ladies are saying as well be truthful and show a photo of just you.
Online dating sucks if you aren't a very good looking guy.I think I'm average looking but I've had better luck at bars and clubs.If you aren't into that I suggest going to singles events held in your city.Try joining some recreational club or coed sport.Salsa class,girls love books so maybe some Barnes and Noble reading event? How about wine tasting events? The point is to put yourself out there! I know it's cozy to not get out of the house and just settle for the online dating but trust me it doesn't work
I can relate with everything you all said. Theres gotta be a better way of meeting someone...
So, I'm not a online dater... never joined a site, didn't have time to what with college and dating in reality. I started up a membership a month ago for my cute (and unfortunately TALL) Mom who is in her 50s. Holy Crap, talk about the worst experience ever! Here i am checking it for her while she is out of town (and unfortunately not computer saavy enough to get her own updates while out of town) and there is nothing but 70-something guys checking her out! I'm not about to let her date someone 20 years older, let alone a decrepit geryatric with no hair on his head (too much hair in his nose and ears) and age spots that look like a third eye! How is that supposed to work? I didn't even know men that old could type!
So I did a few searches for men her age and was even more dissapointed! The men her age are worse than the World of Warcraft nerds... their fantasy goes so much deeper...
Example: Overwieght 57 year old Bill is looking for his "Aisian Princess" who is 5'0" and under between 19 and 35 who doean't smoke and apparently would be interested in a short, fat, unsuccessful, bald man who goes online searching for aisian women. Shouldn't he just buy a wife in Thailand with his dating service money? Ugh! The men this age on these sites are foul, hyppocritical, shallow losers, and I'm sure the women in that age group aren't too hot eaither unless they are completely and unbearably selfish-working on themselves night and day to get into that OK bikkini shot they posted twice.
I'm now discouraging my mom from dating online anymore, I can't stand the results. Yuck. Dating online is lame... spend your time outside the house, spend your money on helping others...If you have no game, don't expect a miracle blind supermodel to come on to you....
Everyone has their fantasy, and miracles happen ever day, but this doesn't mean you will get your wish. Reality isn't always pretty, but its real and its all that is available-so suck it up people.
I agree with a lot of the comments above. The bottom line is unless you look like a male model, are aged between 21-35 and are financially succesful don't bother with online dating sites, unless you don't mind women who frankly you won't be attracted to. 99.9% of the guys on dating sites, go after .1% of the women, and visa versa, so the people who everyone is interested get literally 100s of msgs per day. I talked to a girl once who was getting 1000 msgs from guys a day. With that many msgs no one reads them, they just check out if the guy is "hot" or not, and if he is they read the msg. And don't think that girls are any less shallow than us guys, because trust me they are not, they want a hot guy, just as much as we all want a hot girl.
Add to all of that, even if you do look like a male model are rich etc, and are not looking just for sex (which most guys online are anyway) the chances are that hot girl who somehow you managed to get to go out on a date with you has a date lined up with a different guy each night of the week, AND you probably won't be right for each other anyway!
And no matter how much you think you know someone online, you don't. You will learn more about a person within 10 seconds of seeing them in real life than in 5 months of chatting online.
Find ways of meeting girls in real life, it will probably end up saving you a lot of time and money.
I am giving up the online dating scene. I usually can sniff out why most of these women have never been engaged/married.
I love the no photo diagram ... so true.
I did have one story to share. I met a gal online. The picture from her profile was really nice. Too bad it was at least 15 years old. She had put on about 50 pounds, now wore braces and still lived at home at the ripe old age of 45. She seems to still alot of first dates. Oh yeah and dumb as a rock. She was nice
I had another that I had met that when we met for drinks asked me "if I had a baseball bat in my car?" Apparently someone had left their dog in a car. It was a nice cool (i.e. not cold) day in March. So much for 1st impressions.
I had another profile from eHarmony whose biological clock was ticking very loud (i.e. like Big Ben). She didn't seem very interested in me as a person, just in my baby batter.
I think I'll stick to meeting women in real life...not enough good dates to make it worthwhile. Save your money and your respect.
Too true, all of it. I'm considered a pretty good looking guy and I still get nothing on POF. There's just way too much competition for the attractive girls. It's just better to meet girls the old fashioned way.
Oh and way to break it down like an engineer. I also imagined Cheech was reading it to me which made it even funnier :)
Wow it sounds like A LOT of men on here have some major Mommy issue...sorry guys but the way you all diss us females its no wonder you're all single.
Online dating is pure bullshit, and a total waste of time. First you have your fake profiles – the obvious phony ones put in by the dating site itself to sucker you into a paid subscription. Next you have the scammers who are looking to get something from you – i.e. money, gifts, green card (the international profiles) etc. Then you have the women who are looking for a handsome Greek God type of guy who’s tall, has a muscular physique and makes a nice big 6 figure income – men who’ll pamper and take care of their lazy & stuck-up asses. Next you have the men – most of whom are married and looking for that hot knockout blond 20-25 years of age with the short black mini skirt and low cut blouse just to get laid. All of the above ruin it for the roughly 5% of the men & women who are legitimately looking for a suitable mate to have a normal relationship with.
Mommy issues, Jamie? Explain yourself? You're not going to get away with that blanket statement! You have no idea how it is to be a guy getting a girl in today's world? You women have it so easy next to us men. Remember we have to chase you. And you don't have to do anything, period. I guarantee if situation's were reversed you'd go totally and completely out of your mind! Your lucky your a woman.
Lol, it's poorly managed and run services like these that adds all these negative stigma with online dating, so surprise. What's funny is how everything has shifted and advanced into a more functional, higher technology service available online, while online dating is one of the few things that still hasn't changed much since its inception in the 1990s. Look at match, eharmony and the other "big dogs", they still use the same technology, same routines to so-called match you with your soulmate. Lame indeed.
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Question. Female looking for a male's perspective here if you please.
With the online dating sites like eharmony that have multiple choice "get to know you" type questions, if I find a match that I might want to know more about maybe and send them the first set of questions to get the ball rolling - is this a waste of time? Do guys hate/ignore this? Should I skip straight to email (and then stop emailing if he responds I find out later that I'm actually not interested), or will guys contact me if they are interested and I should not bother to contact them? BTW I am not old, ugly or overweight! (not that it should matter if I am as long as I am honest about it...) p.s. love the posts, finally some honest feedback and answers about how this all works.
I have completely given up on the online dating, all of the sites are a big waste of money and time. I've tried a few on and off for the last 3 years and honestly I got plenty of dates, constantly got requested to communicate. I am not ugly, or fat, and I do have great personality and often I was told I looked better in person than in photos but here's why I am so disappointed, all men claim they are looking for the right one, or someone serious, this is all bullshit they all want one thing to fuck around, let's be honest. None of the guys that said they cared for me really gave me fair chance to see me as an actual person and immediately moved on to pursue other matches because let's face it, there are far more pretty and beautiful women than decent or good looking men so the you guys have plenty to choose. Is like buying a piece of steak at the meat market.
@ homeboy..can't find his post... "Since good looking intelligent girls have no problem getting guys, they don't need online dating. Therefore almost all the girls on online dating sites are fat, ugly as hell, stupid or a combination of the three. The oddball girl who pops up who does look decent gets 100 e-mails a day and you have no chance".
this is so true man you are right on the money...Here is my latest horror story from E-harmony aka Evil Harmony from Dr. Evil...
I met this girl and she was like I got a thyroid problem and she had a belly...She invited me to a hill billy wedding and we had sex...couldn't even get off because she didn't turn me on...then a week later when I got home I was getting ate alive..It seems that the Ghetto Hotel that we had stayed in on her huge budget had bed bugs...
All I have to say is two words to say about online dating it is ****ed Up. I am an intelligent..good looking guy that is height weight proportionate and I would like to meet my equal...actually I am throwing in the towel....
Pof, eharmony, hot or not, yahoo..they all suck #$% I can tell you from experience that these woman are either...fat, ugly , dumb, or just plain freakin retarded...
I am a a self employed soon to be millionaire and I plan On going to the Czech Republic and picking out my super smokin hot wife that I deserve because I am the bomb, good looking, now how to treat a lady and my mom, not on drugs, have all my teeth, not needy or clingy, have my own crib, funny, I am a chef, I am a business man, I am Italian, I have a six pack, I dont have diseases, people say I am cool, and I am just too good for all these lame chicks on these stupid dating sites....Guys save your money and go to Brazil or the Czech republic...
My friend is called the Brazillian transporter and he told me that when he went to Brazil that woman are all over him that are hot and he is like look lady's I am too busy for you right now..Now this dude is not a super player or anything like that....
That is why I am going to get my Love from as far away as possible from these lame American Dating webstites...
Oh and speed dating don't even get me started
Hi there: Read your blog and it is so true. Try being a middle aged, attractive, somewhat intelligent woman :) looking for a man her own age. Any of the men that are in my age category either are so out of shape, look like they live out a tent or are looking for 25 year olds. Come on guys, really. And these guys are certainly not Pierce Brosnan, so they will not be attracting any young gals I can tell you that. It is ridiculous and when someone does not post a picture, the same with what you said can be said about these men. It is truly depressing.
New to the entire online match thing. Now I've recirved a personal PHD in internet fake send me monet girl scamming, Also I can pretty much size up the crazy psycho babble within a few short key strokes. My key is to bring them out of the box as soon and as fast as I can. Get on the damn phone and have a human verbal interaction and cut the crap sort of deal. If they don't want to, well, more fish. For you 20's and 30's start playin' with the big girls. I mean 40 somethings. They're all fresh out of Dtown and peaking their sexual peaks. Besides they've played the kiddie games, now all they wanna do is......
buzpilot 3 years ago
AWESOME!!!!!!
ROCK ON BRO!!!! U Loved reading your blog, all the things you mentioned pissed me off on e-harmony too. Dude, I have been on e-harmony for over a year and didn't get one good date out of the site...Big waste of $$$, feeding Dr Warren and his self making money machine.
Good luck bro, I'm in SoCal like you, and dating here is difficult with many materialistic goldiggers that are all around here.
Great Post Bro!